Mesti you all semua tengah sibuk-sibuk kemas untuk balik raye. Saya juga! (^_^)
Ni ada sikit tips yang saya nak share untuk sesiapa yang nak pulang beraya.
Especially untuk DRIVER ye!
Sebelum mulakan perjalanan, kamu kena make sure rehat dan tidur cukup ok? Takot nanti terlelap. Bahaya tu!
Kereta dah service belum?Hah, kalau belum baik pergi service cepat! Nanti buatnya terstuck tengah jalan macam mane?takot nanti perkara tak diingini pulak yang berlaku.
Penting untuk kita tahu jarak perjalanan supaya kita dapat budget masa kita sampai ke kampung.
Pilih jalan yang ada stesen minyak dan tempat rehat macam r&r. Senang kalau mengantuk ke boleh stop dulu rehat dan minum-minum.
Kita kena pilih timing yang sesuai untuk kita bertolak pulang ke kampung. Pilih time jalan tak sesak, contohnya tengah malam ke, selepas subuh ke, Insya'Allah time tu tak jem rasanya.
Hah, ni nak bagitahu kepada yang suka memotong jalan orang, kamu kena perlu 100% confident baru boleh potong ok?
Memandu ikut had laju! Kalau signboard tulis limitkan kelajuan sampai 100km/j jangan lebih pula tau!
Jangan jadi macam ni, nanti menyesal tak sudah-sudah~
Eh, bukan nak cerita pasal kunang-kunang ni la. Pernah dengar Restoran Kunang-Kunang di Gombak?
Kalau tak pernah meh I cerita,
makanan kat sini kalau bulan puasa diorang buat buffet je, hari biasa baru lah ada yang order.
Tapi I prefer pergi bulan puasa, lagi meriah dan macam-macam ada. Makanan kampung yang sedap susah nak dapat kat KL ni so kat sini antara tempat yang enak banget makanan kampung!
Makanan kampung yang sangat nyum,nyum,nyum.
Tengok lah meja kami yang penuh dengan makanan ni.
Makanan kat sini enak, disebabkan orang yang terlalu ramai hari yang kami pergi so menjadi tidak enak dimana service agak kurang bagus di situ dan mood kami sekeluarga pun berubah.
Meja yang sepatutnya duduk 6-8 orang saya rasa tidak sesuai ditempatkan 13 orang. Kami terpaksa makan bergilir-gilir kerana ruang untuk makan sempit dan lagi tak best bila baby chair yang sepatutnya diduduki oleh baby dzaquan diambil oleh salah seorang pekerja di situ dan dia cuma bagi alasan "kat sini kekurangan baby chair, so saya terpaksa" Boleh ke macam tu?
Tak pe lah, kami memaafkan anda. Mungkin sukar untuk dapatkan supplier di Malaysia ni.
Apa-apa pun, semuanya ok. Sambil makan kita dapat menyaksikan persembahan muzik tradisional.
Kepada yang berminat Buffet disini RM47 seorang manakala kanak-kanak 6-12 tahun RM25 dan tax RM1 dicaj bagi service charge.
Mesti frust dan sakit hati dengan kulit kering kan? Dulu I macam tu jugak kulit sangat kering sebab duduk dalam office berjam-jam setiap hari sampai bersisik putih lepas tu kena la pula turun naik construction site tahan dengan cahaya matahari, bertambah lah kulit ini menjadi bersisik, gelap dan kusam. Sekarang dah kurang dan semakin normal kulit ni. Nak tahu macam mana caranya?
Selain daripada minum plain water 1.5liter sehari, kita perlu memanjakan kulit dengan menyapu lotion Vaseline-Healthy White pada seluruh badan termasuk tapak kaki.
Best sangat ke lotion Vaseline ni?
Best! Yang Best pasal Vaseline's lotion ni,
Firstly dia tak melekit macam sun block. Bau pun wangi, I ni kan jenis cepat pening kepala kalau bau pelik-pelik, bila I bau lotion ni macam best je.
Then dia melindungi kulit daripada cahaya matahari dengan 3 lapisan sunscreen tau dalam masa yang sama mengandungi yogurt serum yang dapat melembabkan kulit ditambah lagi Vitamin B3 yang mencerahkan kulit kita. Haa, paling best dia tak mahal. RM3.90 bagi botol kecil (120ml) dan botol besar (400ml) cuma RM18.10 je.
Sapu je terus berkesan ke?
Heyy, mana ada pakai lotion sekali je terus berkesan. Tembak kang!
Untuk cara yang lebih berkesan, kita sapukan Vaseline's lotion selepas mandi pada badan dan reapply semula setiap 4 jam supaya kelembapan kulit bertahan dalam masa yang lama dan perlindungan 24 jam.
InsyaAllah dalam masa beberapa minggu kesan baik akan muncul tengok jenis kulit juga ye, kulit akan tiada bersisik dan bertambah 10 kali ganda kelembapan. Yang penting sabar dan usaha! (^_*)
Ehh jap,tak kan lotion Vaselin cuma Vaseline-Healthy White je?
Untuk pengetahuan kamu semua, Vaseline's lotion bukan Healthy Whitening je tapi juga Total Moisture, Alore Vera dan Intense Rescue. So boleh lah pilih jenis lotion mane yang suka. Semua pun melembapkan kulit dan wangi cuma kandungannya berbeza!
Kawan-kawan, jangan sampai kulit kamu semua dah jadi kering macam ni baru nak pakai lotion ye!
Kalau dah macam ni, sesiapa pun tak boleh tolong. (-_-)
Cheewahhh!macam lah dah kahwin nak bagi tips kat orang konon!I terbaca notes facebook yang kawan I share. So I pun nak share la dengan you all semua yang bercita-cita mahu kahwin tak lama lagi. Eyhh, tapi untuk orang yang belum nak kahwin atau dah kahwin boleh je. Ilmu tak kira orang kan, banyak ilmu banyak lah pahala kita semua dapat.
Sebelum kita bersetuju untuk berkahwin dengan pasangan kita,
1. Living Arrangements
Be absolutely clear about where both of you will live once you are married. If its at one of the in law's, then discuss how long you'll stay there before you move to your own rented/purchased home. If your spouse is unhappy after a certain period of your living arrangements, do not treat this lightly. Make an effort to have a pleasing & peaceful home experience, especially if you will be living with parents & extended family
- Kat mana kita nak duduk lepas kahwin?siapa yang suka duduk rumah mertua?so
planning kena buat ye kawan-kawan.
2. Health
If you have any health issues, please let your potential spouse know about it. Do not give them a nasty surprise once you are married. For example, a couple i know are no longer together because the husband did not tell her that he has Erectile Dysfunction. She only found out once they were married. There are many conditions that can cause stress to build up such recurring migraines, asthma, diabetes, heart problems etc. Do not hide the existence of your medical condition(s).
- Huwaaa..ini sangat penting!Jangan sesekali berahsia tentang kesihatan yang
kita alami dengan pasangan!
3. Sex
Don't laugh. Sex & finances are among the main reasons for divorce (add Facebook in the list these days).
Brothers, please read up & learn about the right way to approach your wife. DO NOT rush her if she isn't ready to be intimate. A friend of mine took 9 months before she was ready to consumate the marriage. Alhamdulillah they now have 2 kids. Yes, that's an extreme example, but it happened. It could happen to you. Do not start pressuring her with fiqh, hadeeth & quran about the need to consumate the marriage as quickly as possible. Its very likely she knows all those points already. The issue is a psychological & emotional one, not a lack of knowledge for the most part. Maybe a friend told her intercourse is very painful, maybe she doesn't feel confident about her body, maybe she is just very shy. Be gentle, be romantic by going on short holidays together & just be patient. Oh yes, don't forget the dua's :)
Sisters, especially if you are the very shy type, start reading up about intimacy. Don't shy away from straightforward descriptions of body parts & functions. Get comfortable & confident with your body. I don't mean exercise like crazy to get a specific body type, but know that if the guy loves you & wants to marry you, he's fine with the way you look. Sex is something you should look forward to without fear. Please know that you are entitled to & have a right to get your share of pleasure.
If its confirmed that you are getting married, then ask your fiance/soon to be spouse if its okay with him if it takes a while for you to be comfortable to have sex. If he gets upset, that's a red flag there! A good brother would never get upset, but he'll assure you that he'll be gentle & wont pressure you. After all, he wants the experience to be pleasurable for both of you & not just for him. If you are shy to ask, then get a trusted third party to ask. I'm not kidding.
Oh and one more thing brothers, don't get all paranoid & start imagining all sorts of "has she done it before?" scenarios if your wife ends up being very good in bed. Instead, be thankful.
- Hmmmm..ok. Tak nak komen lebih-lebih sebab saya belum berkahwin.
Cuma yang saya tahu ini ada kebenarannya!
4. Sex leads to.....Kids.
Ask each other how soon after marriage do you plan to have kids? Don't assume your spouse has the same ideals as you do. You may wish to wait at least 1 year, whereas he thinks a baby 9 months after the nikah is obligatory. 4 kids is your perfect number, yet she wants 10, or none at all!
What are each of your thoughts on adoption? What if one or both of you end up being impotent?
Do not wait till you're married to ask about children.
Pregnancy is a big deal for the lady. Some women are terrified of getting pregnant. Again, be patient and have her speak to other ladies who are pregnant/have kid to reassure her that she'll be fine. Oh wait, some men are even more terrified of having kids. Same process, get him to talk to fathers of his age.
- Nak ada 10 anak boleh?boleh buat 2 team futsal!ngeee~~
5. Finance
Sisters, please inquire & know how much your potential spouse earns for a living. If his salary is lower than your expections for your lifestyle, ask yourself if you are willing to compromise. If you are used to LV, Gucci & Coach bags yet he can only afford Vincci, will that be a source of frustration for you? If the answer is yes, find out what are his plans to increase his income. On the flipside, if you are not the shopping type of girl, and handbags, shoes etc mean little to you, please don't settle for too little. At the very least know your rights on what your husband needs to spend on you.
A girl i know is fine with her husband giving her only rm50 - rm150 a month for her toiletries, personal care & what not. She says she isn't materialistic, which alhamdulillah is good, but the result is that her husband doesn't spend a ringgit more on her. No dinner dates, no short weekend holidays. Nada. He has become complacent and forgotten his duty to support her living since she does not work.
- But i'm working, is it big deal?
6. Work
Can I continue to work after we get married? Can I start working after we get married? Can I stop working? Can I switch to a lower paying job that I love? "I'll be posted in Timbuktu 3 months after our nikah, and oh yes, I'll be there for 2 years & you gotta move there with me, no ifs or buts okay."
Clarify all the above before you get married.
- Baiklah! (-_-)
7. Food
You hate cooking yet the very day of your nikah your dear hubby asks you "What are you cooking for dinner sayang?". Big problem! Yes, believe or not, a couple got divorced because of this very issue.
Sister, especially if you work, ask him if he expects you to cook all the time. If he does, ask him if he can compromise.
Brother, if you know she hates to cook, ask her if she's willing to learn at classes (which you pay for of course).
She loves western food but you must have rice for every meal. Plus you hate pasta which she's obsessed with!!!
- I'm good in cooking!Eyhh, yeke?masak meggi, boleh?
8. Housework
Picture this: A girl's hero is her dad who happens to help out alot around the house. Daddy helps with the dishes & laundry. He doesn't complain. She then marries a brother who will have nothing to with housework. In fact, he considers it a girls job not befiting a man! Guess how happy the marriage is going to be? If only she had asked him if he's okay with helping out with the dishes after she cooked that wonderful dinner.
Brothers, please help out around the house. Rasulullah s.a.w did, hence no excuses.
- Nak pembantu boleh?(-_-)
Brothers & sisters, we need to be prepared for the worst case scenario as well. Sometimes in the desire to get married, we only see & imagine the beautiful & sweet life ahead, and as a result we get thrown overboard when a storm comes.
May Allah taala guide all of you who are seeking your life partner. May He also guide us who are already married to remain loving & faithful to each other. May He give us righteous children who will be His servants and help make the world around them a better place.
Thanks to Daniel Zain Ibrahim!
InsyaAllah~~
Hopefully, ini membantu kalian semua. Saya gembira bila anda semua gembira.
